I cannot help but think of the duct tape analogy. Once you tape a piece of duct tape to something, it holds pretty firm. However, if you peel it off and tape it down again, it holds less firm than before. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Eventually, the duct tape hardly holds on at all. You tape it down and it comes off easily. In the same fashion, these women in my office date one guy, get physically and therefore emotionally involved and when that one doesn’t work out, move on to the next one. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. Now they don’t know what or who to hold onto and nothing seems to stick.
In a vain attempt to get a guy or hold onto one, they are willing to do anything, throwing themselves and their inhibitions and their convictions to the wayside. They think that by not going far enough or not doing anything at all, they are ruining their chances of landing a guy, a relationship, a marriage, a future. Which is far from truth!
These friends seek security in a male relationship, but in reality, they find insecurity and heartache. While focusing on the future and the next weekend’s events instead of looking at their lives in the mirror, they are creating scars and wounds deep within that will not go away with ease. My heart hurts for these girls.
Patton makes an insightful point about how, “in our postmodern society, naivete is the greatest disqualifier” of our “counsel and witness”. Indeed, to be naive and yet press on in forcing counsel on someone whose predicaments we can hardly understand, doesn’t help anybody:
However, with both types of doubters, before you can effectively minister to them, you have to gain legitimacy. And the way to gain this is the same for both. They need to know that you have been there. They need to see your battle scars with the Lord. They need to see that you have truly wrestled with these issues. They need to see that you walk with a limp too. Otherwise, you are immediately going to be written off as a naive Christian. In our postmodern society, naivete is the greatest disqualifier for your counsel and witness. So it is important that you raise your shirt and show your scars across your heart. And you know what? Your wound does not necessarily need to be sewn up and closed. It could be wide open. You may be in the middle of the battle yourself. As long as they see you are/have been there and that you have still kept your faith, they will be much more likely to listen. It is just like depression. Once someone sees that you have been there, their first thought is hope. “I am not the only one!” they think to themselves. “How does this person hold it together? There must be a way!” is often their thought.
Interestingly enough, Ehrman notes that the historicity of Jesus doesn’t change anything about where he stands philosophically. But I suppose you can believe in Christ’s historicity without believing his claims:
Formerly a fundamentalist Protestant and biblical inerrantist, but unable to square that position with his studies, he moved during graduate school to liberal Christianity. Today, though, he reports, “I am an agnostic with atheist leanings,” and his popular books have criticized basic traditional Christian views of Jesus and the Bible.
Given that background, it’s likely that many nonbelievers, hearing that his newest book would pose the question “Did Jesus Exist?” expected him to answer “No.” If they did, though, they’ve surely been disappointed. The subtitle to his book is “The Historical Argument for Jesus of Nazareth.”
But he did move a bit closer to freedom. Silva is part of an innovative program that allows inmates at a prison in Brazil’s southeastern Minas Gerais state to reduce their sentences in exchange for generating power to help illuminate the town at night.
By pedaling the prison’s stationary bikes, the inmates charge a battery that’s used to power 10 street lamps along the town’s riverside promenade. For every three eight-hour days they spend on the bikes, Silva and the voluntary program’s other participants get one day shaved off their sentences.
Yet as our decision-making accelerates, long-term strategy becomes even more crucial. Those of us who find time to step back and think about the big picture, even for a few minutes, have a major advantage. If every one else moves too quickly, we can win by going slow.
No one understood the challenge of time-pressured decision-making better than military strategistJohn Boyd, arguably the greatest fighter pilot in American history. Boyd developed a decision-making framework that our best leaders use today, in military and in business. It is known by the acronym OODA, for observe, orient, decide, and act.
One of the better compilations of principles on more productive/effective leadership that I’ve read in a while.
A long but interesting story. Wow:
When Robert Wood Jr. disappeared in a densely forested Virginia park, searchers faced the challenge of a lifetime. The eight-year-old boy was autistic and nonverbal, and from his perspective the largest manhunt in state history probably looked like something else: the ultimate game of hide-and-seek.