Candice Watters on the good, the bad, and the purpose of beauty:
I still think it’s wrong to inject botulism toxins into your skin to mask the wrinkles that come with aging, but I have more empathy for my roommate’s mom now that I’m a lot closer in age to what she was back when I was so opinionated about it. I understand why BOTOX and other treatments like it are so appealing. It’s humbling to fall short of our culture’s standard of beauty, even more to begin losing the vibrancy of youth on the journey into old age. But the Gospel makes it not only bearable to go on that journey, it also calls us to embrace it with joy. Humility is exactly the posture God wants us to have toward Him. It’s the posture Christ had toward the cross (Philippians 2:6-10) and that which gave way to joy and exaltation.
Our only hope in this pressure cooker of a culture is the God-man who “had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him” (Isaiah 53). If God wants to use physical imperfections and challenges, along with evidence of aging, to conform us to the image of Christ, then we can not only endure aging, but be thankful for it and rejoice in it. May we say about our wrinkles, grey hairs, sallow skin, extra pounds — whatever area we don’t measure up to the world’s standard — may we say with Paul, and with great joy, “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day” (2 Corinthians 4:16).
Links on Motherhood
- Motherhood Is a Calling (And Where Your Children Rank)
Rachel Jankovic describing motherhood as a calling and an honor against the backdrop of modern, cultural mores:
When my little girl told me, “Your hands are full!” I was so thankful that she already knew what my answer would be. It was the same one that I always gave: “Yes they are—full of good things!”
Live the gospel in the things that no one sees. Sacrifice for your children in places that only they will know about. Put their value ahead of yours. Grow them up in the clean air of gospel living. Your testimony to the gospel in the little details of your life is more valuable to them than you can imagine. If you tell them the gospel, but live to yourself, they will never believe it. Give your life for theirs every day, joyfully. Lay down pettiness. Lay down fussiness. Lay down resentment about the dishes, about the laundry, about how no one knows how hard you work.
Stop clinging to yourself and cling to the cross. There is more joy and more life and more laughter on the other side of death than you can possibly carry alone.
- Are You Mom Enough? (Mommy Wars)
Rachel Pieh Jones on her perspective on the “Mommy Wars”:
And somehow, in God’s mathematics of grace: Mom (never enough) + God (infinitely enough) = Mom enough.
Mom enough to believe and to be called Chosen, Daughter, Righteous, Honored, Heir, Forgiven, Redeemed.
Trusting in God, because of Christ, I will rise from the graveyard of Mommy War victims, victorious and filled with resurrection power. Loving and living in his perfect enough-ness, I will live to parent for another day. Never mom enough, but filled with the One who is always enough.
In addition to the two links above, there are two additional articles I’ve previously linked that are informative and encouraging on the topic. One has to do with two women finding fulfillment away from the feminist agenda, and the other is simply a list of things to remember on the road to becoming a happier mom.
An infograph/timeline of 1 & 2 Kings.
Like alcohol, Facebook doesn’t reveal something that wasn’t already lurking within a person. Unsurprisingly, divorce lawyers in the article imply that the FB accounts of the opposing client/spouse is a gold mine, especially for cross-examinations, etc. On another note, I found the following excerpt to be interesting:
Even when extra-marital affairs develop with no help from Facebook, experts say the site provides a deceptively comfortable forum for people to let off steam about their lives and inadvertently arouse the suspicions of spouses. “The difference with Facebook is it feels safe, innocent and private,” says Randy Kessler, an Atlanta, Ga.-based lawyer and current chair of the family law section of the American Bar Association. (See Facebook and Divorce Discussed in WSJ.) “People put an enormous amount of incriminating stuff out there voluntarily.” It could be something as innocuous as a check-in at a restaurant, he says, or a photograph posted online.
The excerpt doesn’t mention this directly, but this is probably one reason why a lot of people are dodgy about an issue in person, but all-too-willing to share about it on facebook.
Tom Bartlett “tracks down the remnants of Harold Camping’s apocalyptic movement and finds out you don’t have to be crazy to believe something nuts”. Pretty striking to see where Camping’s “followers” and their faith is at a year later.
I’m a sucker for sports-church analogies. Doug Hankins on what elders in the church can learn from Larry Bird who became “the only person to win the NBA’s Rookie of the Year, MVP, Coach of the Year, and Executive of the Year”.